After a few days of prompting from David, I have decided that I will attempt my second post on the blog.
I thought it might be best to address a few of the questions everybody keeps asking me.
(Don’t worry, if you have asked me one of these questions, it is not annoying me; I just am not nearly as creative as my husband and needed to post about something.)
So here they are—answers to the most frequently asked questions of the past 3+ weeks.
1. “How are you doing?”
I am doing great! Seriously. I am pleasantly surprised at how well I am doing. After a couple of difficult days of recovery, I have been doing much better. My swelling is mostly gone, my blood pressure back into a normal range, and all other signs of pre-eclampsia slowly dissipating.
Anytime I feel tired or like I am not feeling well, I just remind myself how much better this is than pregnancy! The first 20 weeks of pregnancy and the last 7 weeks on bed-rest were very tough (since I only made it to 35 weeks, you can see that the majority of pregnancy was not very fun). I just have to remember those last two weeks when I needed help rolling over and the pain in my left side to feel truly remarkable!
If remembering pregnancy isn’t enough, I think about how much easier this is than having the boys in the hospital while I was at home (or having one there and one home!). This is so much easier! The nurses at the hospital kept telling me to go home and rest and not worry about being there. I already had been bed-resting for 7 weeks! I wasn’t really interested in resting once my sons had made their appearance!
I am very thankful that I am doing well. Thanks to everybody for all their help that makes this possible. Grandmas, your help has been truly priceless. Thank you for giving me the time to bond with my boys while you have cooked and cleaned tirelessly and let me take a nap anytime I needed one.
2. “Can you tell the boys apart?”
Of course, I can tell my boys apart. I am their mom!
Honestly, yes, I think it is easy to tell the boys apart. They really don’t look that similar to me. But, people tell me that they do look a lot alike.
Coleman has a more narrow face and darker hair. He has longer fingers, as well as a more relaxed temperament. He rarely cries. He will lay and just look around for long periods of time.
Carson has a rounder face and blonder hair. He has a more lively temperament. I like to call him feisty. He has the highest pitch cry I have ever heard in my life. When we went back to the pediatrician for Coleman’s appointment two days after Carson’s, she asked me if Coleman’s cry was as remarkable as his brother’s. I am thankful that it is not. If Carson is awake, he is usually grunting and moving around.
I actually was surprised when I saw them the first time and they looked as different as they did. David and I often get told we look pretty similar, so I thought our twins would probably look identical even though they are not. In fact, at one of my baby showers, we played a game that people had to identify baby pictures of David and me. People did make mistakes. If I have time someday, maybe I’ll make a little David and Megan trivia picture game for our blog friends.
3. “How is nursing going?” (And in a much quieter voice, “Do you nurse them at the same time?”)
This seems to be an area of interest when it comes to having twins. Don’t worry, I’m not going to get too personal here. The boys are getting about 50% of their volumes from nursing. They are still too little to nurse exclusively. Yes, it can be done with twins, and yes, in the interest of saving time, they nurse at the same time (called tandem nursing).
4. “Why the C-Section?” and “How did I feel about having a C-Section?”
We had to deliver the boys via C-Section because they were not in position to arrive any other way (as if there is more than one other alternative option). I was well prepared for the fact that I would probably be having a C-Section since these little guys were never properly positioned. At times during the pregnancy, they were both transverse (sideways), they were diagonal, and they were breech. On delivery day, Coleman was breech and he was presenting first.
The C-Section wasn’t so bad. Nothing could have prepared me for that experience—it was a crazy whirlwind, but it really went very well. I walked back to the OR at 8:30 p.m. (6 hours after the smoothie I so enjoyed from my friend Andie—they needed 6 hours of no food to start the surgery), and the boys were born at 8:44 and 8:46. I was in recovery by a little after 9. Now that’s quick labor . 🙂
5. “What do you need?”
Everybody, keep doing what you’re doing. I have felt so loved, supported, and cared for by everybody’s prayers, notes, visits, calls, meals, and interest in the boys. Keep enjoying these little guys with me and know your outreach is truly appreciated!
Well, I think that about does it. Am I missing a FAQ?
Off to another feeding…